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MOTHER OF SORROWS

Four women tell their stories of hope and healing after abortion

Photo Copyright Pavel Chichikov


We Both Lost a Child
by Charnette Messe

The clinic made abortion seem like the "easy choice." Little did I know that the "choice" they promoted would multiply my grief and pain.

I was 20, single, and in the midst of a budding professional dance career. When I found out I was pregnant, I was ashamed. I wanted to hide my sin from my family, from the whole world. The man I had been dating for four years didn't want our child.

Several women and I stood as if in an assembly line, waiting for our turn to enter the infirmary. I couldn't help but stare at the girl standing behind me with a swelled belly. She must have been at least six months along. I kept asking myself, "Why did she wait so long? Why is she killing her baby?" Because my stomach was flat, it was easy to deny I was doing the same.

The clinic staff had assured me, "It's not a baby; it cannot feel pain." The words they used to describe my child were "zygote," "embryo" and "cluster of cells."

The physical consequences of my abortion were dramatic: two full days of severe cramping, vomiting at every menstrual cycle—which continued for several years—and chronic pain in my left breast. But the mental suffering far outweighed the physical. Many nights, I would awake from nightmares crying and shaking. My recurring dream was that I'd hidden a body in my closet, and someone was going to find it.

When I entered that clinic, there were two people—when I left, there was only one. Since then, I have lived with constant pain of loss—first the loss of my baby, then an ovary, and most recently, my breast to cancer. (It's a frequent after-effect of abortion.)

The pain of losing my baby is more unbearable than cancer. Abortion and cancer are sisters; cancer eats away at the body, abortion at the soul.

For years I grieved silently for my baby. It wasn't until I was diagnosed with an advanced stage of breast cancer that I started to have a real relationship with God. By this time I was married with children, but for eight years I had been afraid to tell my husband what I'd done.

You see, he is a hero in the pro-life movement—a Navy Lieutenant Commander, he works as a volunteer physician for our local crisis pregnancy center, which he helped found.

I sought solace and guidance in the confessional. "The only way to heal is to tell your husband the truth," the priest explained in a soft voice. This eased a massive cross from my shoulders.

The day I told my husband, I finally felt free to grieve for my baby. He took me in his arms and said, "Honey, we both lost a child."

In that moment we fell in love all over again.

The day after the diagnosis of cancer was confirmed, I found out I was pregnant with my third child. Doctors suggested I have a "therapeutic" abortion. However, I felt it was my abortion which had caused the cancer, the endometriosis, the loss of an ovary, and the polyps in my uterus and fallopian tube. I was determined to give life to my son regardless of the risk.

And here we both are, alive.

This may shock you, but I love having cancer. I love the fact that I am only 32 and have only one breast. I embrace it because my breast cancer gave me the strength to love my aborted child. My pain comes from looking at my beautiful children, Gabrielle and Christian and not knowing if I will see them grow up.

My peace lies in the hope that one day I will hold my lost baby in heaven.

Charnette Messe is currently working on a book, A Brilliant Performance: How a Young Mother's Battle With Breast Cancer and Pregnancy Defined Her Dignity in the World.


They Named Him '3A'
By Theresa Bonopartis

For years after my abortion, the sight of a mayonnaise jar was a torment to me.

I watched the doctor's impassive face as his cold hands injected saline into my slightly swollen abdomen. (I was just entering my fifth month.) Thirty years later, it is still a mystery to me how I arrived at the hospital. But I can still remember that face.

As I lay alone in a sterile hospital room, my only wish was to die. No one had told me that I would feel my baby thrash and struggle for life—in what should have been his haven.

After 12 hours of labor, I delivered my baby, alone. I could tell that he was a boy, and I marveled at how perfect his tiny feet and hands were. I wanted to pick his precious body up and put him back into my body. I couldn't believe what was happening. What I had done.

I rang for the nurse; she entered my room, holding a container that reminded me of a large mayonnaise jar. She picked my son up and dumped him into the jar, marked "3A".

I grew up in a Catholic home, where we went to church every Sunday. I believed, but I didn't feel, God's presence in my life. But I thought I could rely on my parents. When I told them the news of my pregnancy, they were shocked, disappointed, and outraged.

They asked me to leave their house and forget I was their daughter.

Barely 18, I left my childhood home that day without a dime or anywhere to turn. In those days, pregnancy shelters were nearly unheard of. The baby's father and I broke up. I felt completely abandoned. Despite the bleakness, I was determined to keep my baby.

I stayed with friends for a while, trying to figure out how on earth I would support this child. Messages would come from my father periodically, offering to payfor an abortion.

I began to feel that I did not have a choice. Eventually, I shut down emotionally and just let the abortion happen to me. After that my life took a downward plunge. Thoughts of death were a consolation. I hated myself. I stumbled into an abusive marriage, with a husband who was in and out of drug rehab. I felt I was getting what I deserved.

But once I had children, I came to realize it wasn't what my two sons deserved. This came to me the day my husband got home and my oldest (then 4 years old) said, "Quick, daddy's coming; hide in the closet, Mommy." Soon we left to start anew.

I continued to find strength reading my Bible and praying. I began to attend Mass, but I was uncomfortable. I was sure that everyone knew. I made spiritual progress, but I was severely depressed. Every day it was a challenge to get out of bed and care for my boys.

Then something a priest said offered me hope. I was attending a parents meeting for my older son's First Penance and First Holy Communion. The priest talked about the mercy of God. He told us that God forgives all sin. "God even forgives the sin of abortion." I couldn't believe my ears. I thought my sin was unforgivable.

Confession was my road to healing, but I still had to learn to forgive myself. I spent a lot of time praying before the Blessed Sacrament. I told God, "I am not going to leave you alone until you heal me!"

Our Lady also played a pivotal role. At the beginning of my conversion, I read St. Louis De Montfort's True Devotion to Mary and consecrated myself to her. The Blessed Mother became my constant advocate with Christ. 

She was there the night I sat on my bathroom floor, rocking back and forth repeating, "Jesus, I trust in you."

I repeated my plea over and over for hours.

The only way I can put into words what happened next is to say I climbed on the Cross with Christ, and instead of the suffering we see when we gaze upon him crucified, I saw in him the only love capable of taking away my pain.

Theresa Bonapartis is the Program Coordinator for Lumina/hope and healing after abortion, a post-abortion referral network, and co-founder of Reclaiming Our Children, a group of post abortive parents working for the unborn. For an audio version of her testimony visit www.grassrootsrenewal.com.



A Whole New Beginning
by 'Kate'

On a fall day in October of 2000, 13 years after my abortion, the cold landscape around the retreat house was stripped bare, but my heart sprang with hope. I knelt before an image of the Divine Mercy, waiting to name my baby - the one that I had never had a chance to cradle in my arms, to comfort, to love.

Each month, the Sisters of Life host Days of Prayer and Healing for men and women whose lives are scarred by abortion. The retreat is centered around the chapel, where people hear each others' stories, sit before the Blessed Sacrament, and attend Mass.

At liturgy's end, each woman is invited, if she is ready, to offer a rose to her lost child and inscribe his/her name in a remembrance book. In my heart, I knew that my baby was a boy. I trembled as I walked forward, bloom in hand. There was no turning back. I was finally facing what I'd done. Relief and grief flooded me, as I carefully wrote "Isaiah" in the copper-plated book.

This day was a whole new beginning for me.

Before my abortion, my life was already taking a wrong turn. At the age of 20, I was well on my way to becoming an alcoholic and a drug addict. When I found myself unmarried and pregnant, in an abusive relationship, it seemed impossible that I could raise a baby. On October 5, 1989, I gave birth to Jacob, whom I gave up for adoption.

My drinking escalated. The only way I could manage the loss I was feeling was to fall further off the edge. By now what little faith I'd had was completely smothered by my lifestyle.

My adoption counselor had warned me that many women who give up children get pregnant again within a year. That happened to me. This time I felt that abortion was the only option.

I couldn't bear the thought of handing off another baby. I had no faith, no hope, and nobody to trust. In an act of desperation, I walked into the same clinic that had provided my prenatal care, but this time my 12-week old baby wasn't going to receive any care.

I have no memory of what happened next.

Before my abortion, I was a prolific writer, jotting down any thoughts or the day's events in my well-worn journal. Afterwards I stopped writing; I couldn't endure what I had done. I forced myself never to think of it—to the point where I cannot recall the actual event.

In my darkest hour, three years after my abortion, my sister suggested, mildly, "Maybe you ought to pray, Kate."

Alone, I lay on the floor with myarms outstretched towards heaven, beseeching God to help me, weeping uncontrollably. My prayer was "God, I don't know if you're there, if you can hear me, but please help me—because I think I am going to die."

This began my road to sobriety. After I got out of rehab, I felt an overwhelming desire for forgiveness. I hadn't been in the confessional for 15 years. I told the priest, "I've broken every commandment, except I have never killed anyone." I wasn't lying. I was so removed from the truth that my abortion did not even occur to me.

That day in the confessional was the beginning of my coming to terms with my abortion. I still wasn't in the Church, but I was trying to make my life right—unconsciously trying to get my babies back. A brief relationship started and ended—and again, I was pregnant. This time there was no question: I would keep my baby.

My daughter had a lot to with my healing. She made me want to reclaim my lost faith. I had to relearn about the Church—throwing out the prejudices I'd picked up and or created. When I started to trust in Christ, that was when I began to heal.

After the Sacraments, the Blessed Mother has played the greatest role in my conversion. The people that I would see in the Church that possessed a faith that was alive and vibrant and full of love had a devotion to the Blessed Mother that I wanted.

It took time, but I finally overcame my prideful belief that I was the worst sinner on earth, and that I had committed the "unforgiveable sin." This allowed me to draw close to our Mother. At last, I consecrated my life to her - and she has given me the courage to be a voice for Isaiah.

Kate is a regular volunteer at the Sisters of Life Days of Prayer and Healing.



My Own Story
by Lori Hadacek

A pretty Irish woman named Bernadette greeted me at the door of Birthright. in downtown Minneapolis. "I think I am pregnant," I whispered tearfully.

As I waited for the results of my test, I kept turning over and over in my mind: "What will mom think? How will I take care of my baby alone? My parents will hate me."

At that moment I knew for the first time why some women have abortions—fear, naked fear. Bernadette encouraged me to call my parents that night. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I despised myself for the way I had hurt them.

I'd enjoyed a close relationship with my family, particularly my mother. But the news of my unwed pregnancy cut a breach between us that was excruciating. I clung to my rosary beads, seeking consolation from the Blessed Mother, while I waited for my earthly mother's pain and disappointment to subside.

God forgave my sin in the confessional, but I couldn't begin to forgive myself until I had received "absolution" from my mom.

As my parents cooled off, I started to face the tough decisions. The hardest was whether I was going to give my baby up for adoption.

I would lie in my bed at night crying, praying, agonizing - did I even deserve to keep my baby? I was 25 years old, and as long as I could remember I'd yearned for a child; but raising an infant without a father seemed wrong.

One day, a co-worker of mine who was engaged revealed that she too was pregnant. I was delighted. We'd be able to share the joys and pains of our pregnancies. But she shook her head.

"I'm not going to keep my baby. I am going to have an abortion," she said matter-of-factly. Stunned, I asked her why. She said her fiancée wasn't ready to have children. Besides, her mother had once warned her, "Don't tell me if you get pregnant outside of marriage. I don't want to know."

I talked about all the resources there were, and the people who are willing to help unwed mothers. I suggested adoption. "No, I couldn't bear to give my baby away," she whispered with downcast eyes. Her words still haunt me.

A few months after I had my daughter, Ella Philomena in 1994, a baby gift arrived in the mail from my co-worker.

There was no card, only a return address.



What is the Catholic Church's hope for those that suffer from abortion?

Twenty-nine year old Father Juniper Mary Sistare of the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal is the Director of the Pro-life Apostolate in New York. On Wednesday and Saturday, he and other Franciscan Friars and novices counsel and pray in front of abortion businesses. Franciscan Friars of the Renewal also hear confessions and talk at the Sisters of Life Days of Prayer and Healing retreats.

"Standing outside the abortion mill, I tell the mothers who come out, 'Your baby is in God's hands; he/she is now praying for you,'" says Fr. Juniper.

Even more importantly, I tell them "Your sin can be forgiven," because a lot of these women think that they cannot be forgiven. It is almost like the story in the Bible of Mary Magdalen or the Prodigal Son—all of these great sinners—who realized that they could come to the mercy of God and be forgiven. Our hope is they know that, through God's mercy, they can be forgiven. When we counsel we're there to help them choose life, but if they do make the wrong choice, then we'll also be there for them."

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Reprinted with permission from the Fall 2003 issue of Faith & Family: The Magazine of Catholic Living. All rights reserved. See the related link above for more information.

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READER COMMENTS
01.07.05   completion7 says:
The stories of these four women really hit home for me. Almost 5 years ago I had an abortion. Like one of the stories stated fear seemed to be my greatest motivator. I have since given birth to a beautiful little girl who is the light of my life. She was the catalyst for my soul to begin to heal. As long as I live I will always live with the memory of my unborn child and all the joy I now know I missed out on. Children are the true meaning of joy and love. They are the only perfect thing that we create in this world by the will of God.

06.17.04   stpete says:
I'm distrubed by the person who feels that stating a medical link between breast cancer and abortion is tantamount to saying that God is punishing women for having abortions. Clearly, this indicates a lack of understanding on their part, or more probably is a result of the Church's failure to communicate and distribute it's beautiful teachings to more than monks and apologists. Case in point, the are natural, temporal consequences to sin, just as there are spiritual consequences to sin. Let us take the trite example of a recovering herion addict. Of course he or she would be cleansed from mortal sin after confession and penance. Still, if I were to talk with this individual and state medical/statistical evidence that herion uses have a high probability of contracted a disease through the use of shared needles, I would not be "judging" them. Moreover, if this person were to exhibit signs of a contracted disease after repentance, would one view it as God's judgement or cruelty? Enter freewill, action/reaction, cause/effect. I would respond that it is the secular world that has failed our young men and women by advocating "contraception" and sterilizing the joy and intimacy of holy, sacramental sex. We tell our children to play Russian roulette, and hide the True facts of sex and risks associated with sex out of wedlock.Please, tell me how one is justified by promoting a lifestyle that leads to death, disease, and despair, while decrying a life style that has been proven medically, psychologically, and spiritually to be the ultimate in sexual joy and expression. I would challenge anyone who thinks otherwise to examine their conscience and see what motivates the "contraception" method. Clearly it is a choice between Death of body and soul, or the Celebration of Life and true sexual freedom (the Church's position). God Bless to All Who have participated. www.commongood movement.com

02.01.04   hmbress says:
As to the question of whether the Church's teaching against contraception leads to more abortions, it is exactly the opposite - it is the widespread acceptance of contraception that has led to the increase in abortion. In fact, 57.5% of women procuring surgical abortions were using some form of contraception when they conceived (according to the Alan Guttmacher Insitute - Planned Parenthood's research arm). Since there are roughly 1.2 million surgical abortions a year in the U.S. alone, this means that approximately 690,000 babies are aborted as a backup to failed contraception. Professor Janet Smith writes more about why this is so:Quote"The connection between contraception and abortion is primarily this: contraception facilitates the kind of relationships and even the kind of attitudes and moral characters that are likely to lead to abortion. The contraceptive mentality treats sexual intercourse as though it had little natural connection with babies; it thinks of babies as an 'accident' of intercourse, as an unwelcome intrusion into a sexual relationship, as a burden. The sexual revolution has no fondness - no room for - the connection between sexual intercourse and babies. The sexual revolution simply was not possible until reliable contraceptives were available."Far from being a check to the sexual revolution, contraception is the fuel that facilitated the beginning of the sexual revolution and enables it to continue to rage."Also to be considered is the fact that many of the most popular contraceptives are in fact abortifacient in nature. The Pill, Norplant, Depo-Provera, and the IUD. Millions of very early abortions each year are caused, often without the woman even being aware of the possibility, from these methods. To read more about this click hereAlso note that in the Supreme Court case Casey vs. Planned Parenthood, Justice O’Conner wrote in the plurality opinion that society relies "...on the availability of abortion in the event that contraception should fail." In other words, since contraception is so widely used, and since contraception so often fails, therefore we must make abortion available as a backup.It seems obvious to me that if everyone followed the Church's teaching (avoiding sex outside of marriage, resorting to natural family planning when avoiding or spacing of births is needed, viewing children as a blessing and not a burden, etc.) there would be no need or desire for abortion.We need to ask ourselves - do we trust Christ? Do we trust that He knew what He was doing when He established the Church and said that the gates of hell would never prevail against it? That when He said "Whatever you hold bound on earth I will hold bound in Heaven", that He actually meant it? If we trust Him we can also trust the teachings of His church, even if we don't yet understand them.

01.29.04   domusdei says:
Great article Lori! Welcome to Godspy!tom hunt

01.29.04   sem says:
Jenny,Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!You know, there's always plenty of room here in the Catholic Church.... Peace, Prayers, and Blessings,sem

01.29.04   lindadic says:
Thanks for all your posts! Esp. Richard--your summary of the Church's position on contraception was very well done. Unfortunately, I don't find it convincing, although I will say, once I became a Catholic in 1995, I didn't practice contraception. Now it doesn't matter because unless the Lord has something Sarah-like in mind for me, I'm going to be a grandma rather than a mom again....My daughter expects a daughter in May!Also, Theresa, I regret the sin of abortion myself, and subscribe to the Church's position against it, but I don't think your friend's "feeling" about it constitutes hard medical evidence, powerful though it may be. We can argue about this back and forth, but I think it's irrelevant to the issue, which is whether abortion is ethical or not. Even if it was beneficial to your health, it would still be wrong.

01.28.04   jennymurph says:
hi,i can't add anything to these great posts except to say that the protestant church (which i am still a member of) doesn't have the same teaching on contraception that the catholic church does and abortion is as prevalent there and less confessed. i would also like to share that NFP is all about making a choice with your spouse each time you make love. my husband and i practice NFP and made the decision that sometimes our relationship and showing our love for each other was more important than avoiding a pregnancy. we made that choice several times without a pregnancy and then once again, this time God decided that he would bless us with a child. i have never been so at peace with my body or the possibility of becoming pregnant in all my life. (i did previously use the pill) Finally, i have given my fertility over to God and the freedom of resting in His arms is amazing!God Bless

01.28.04   sem says:
Brief comments to all:Theresa,Thanks not only for sharing some of your story in the article, but also for adding to the discussion here. It's appreciated. Richard_P,I especially like the list of "It's the difference between...." The more choices we make that are in keeping with God's superior knowledge, the more we are open to receiving even more graces that allow us to live even fuller and more loving lives. Linda,I think your latest post was well-answered by the above mentioned folks but I have one additional comment about your last sentence:I think He had our pleasure without danger of pregnancy in mind...God sees "our" pleasure for what it is. It's fine-- for the very short term. It's oh so brief, and limited. God has a much greater wish for us. He wants us to have a taste of the infinite, right here on earth. He wants us to experience a joy that is everlasting, but we have to let him teach us. We have to let go of our pre-conceived, hard-wired, and habitual notions that we know what's best for ourselves. We have to trust that He does know what's best for us, even if we can't see the big picture. Peace, Prayers, and Blessings,sem

01.27.04   Tbonop says:
Hi GuysThis is Theresa..one of the women whose testimony you read. I am also a good friend of Charnette...the breast cancer testimony. While no one believes God did this to punish, there are consequences to descisions we make in life and abortion has its share. I know Charnette believs her abortion and use of contraception contributed if not cause her breast cancer. There are studies being done that prove the truth to this. Sadly, the mainstream press doe snot let this out any more than they give coverage to the detrimental effects of abortion.I have been doing post abortion work for 12 years, the last eight developing a ministry with The Sisters of Life. Over this time we have seen many consequences of abortion...mental illness, sterility, addictions, eating disorders etc. Did God do this to punish these women?of course not, we have a merciful loving God.There is hope and healing and life can be joyful again. It does not mean you forget your abortion...I would not want to, it does mean that as the Pope says in the Gospel of life "nothing is definitively lost" and our children are "now living with the Lord". To be sure healing is difficult, but as with anything God can take our worse sins and use them for good.

01.26.04   Richard_P says:
Linda - Who says the Church is against sexual pleasure? Back in 1960, in Chapter 5 of Love & Responsibility, dealing with "Sexology," Karol Wojtyla (JPII) said couples should strive for mutual orgasms. He also said male insensitivity was mostly to blame for female frigidity. This was way before Dr. Ruth!And since when has procreation inhibited sexual pleasure? The last time I checked, procreative sex was not only as pleasurable as non-procreative sex, as compared to sex with condoms, it's MORE pleasurable. A married couple that is willing to accept children can have all the sex they like (within reason), and this continues until one of them dies. Age and infertility doesn't change anything.A family can space children, or avoid pregnancy, for just reasons (that are between them and God) by reserving sex for infertile periods. (The Church does not teach "Providentialism"- that a family must have as many children as possible). That means abstaining for 10 days or so a month, which leaves 20 days. I don't get why that's such a hardship. (In fact, abstaining spurs desire). And it allows for more sex than today's dysfunctional couples are having, based on recent media reports. NFP, as opposed to artifical birth control, promotes virtue (Mother Teresa called it "self-control out of love for the other") and cooperates with God's creation. In the long run, it's the difference between conforming ourselves to reality (maturity), or conforming reality to us (narcissism). It's the difference between love (self-giving) and lust (instrumentalism). It's the difference between Mary's fiat and Satan's "I will not serve." It's the difference between Adam & Eve playing God, and Christ's emptying himself on the cross. On a natural level, it's the difference between factory farms and organic farms; between eating healthy, and relying on diet pills (or bulimia). As we face species-altering bioethical choices, the principles behind NFP will become more important than ever.Does this mean that every couple that practices NFP is more virtuous than a couple that uses contraception? Of course not. There are important subjective factors involved. But couples that embrace NFP rather than contraception will find that it objectively aligns their love-making with their subjective desire to give themselves to each other, and with God's plan for marriage.

01.26.04   lindadic says:
Dear Sem,The logic you use may be right when you talk about hormones, but the causes of breast cancer are still unknown; there would probably be a lot more breast cancer if it were triggered by abortion. I have read that the information linking abortion and the pill to cancer is spurious. In any case, your argument shouldn't rest on the health costs of abortion or the pill. You wouldn't (and shouldn't) think either were right even if they conferred health benefits. I just want to point out that the Church's position on contraception is not so simple. The Church opposes "artificial" contraception. They have no problem with "natural" family planning. Seems to me that erodes the idea that you should always want to create life when you have intercourse, which I think is what being "open" to new life actually means. I also think the Church is wrong about that: God gave us the ability to enjoy our sexuality long after our reproductive years have ended. I think He had our pleasure without danger of pregnancy in mind...

01.26.04   sem says:
Linda,These women also speak of their coming to terms with their pain and grief and finding forgiveness, mercy, and healing. I'm sure that they wouldn't just throw those words around for the fun of it. We do all have to go through horrible things in our life, and the situations of those women were especially and extremely painful. But the Church, which you blame so quickly, was also the source and vehicle for their healing. The Church gave them bedrock to cling to when they were most overwhelmed with despair. These women bore the pain of their abortion and bore the pain of their grief, probably alone except for what they could bear to share with Christ. (This society doesn't really allow women to grieve for their aborted babies, does it? This society barely even acknowledges grief for miscarriages.) The Church does. Eventually, these women were able to give all their pain to Christ, and accept his love, forgiveness, and mercy. Anyone who would say or even imply that breast cancer is some sort of "payback" is evil. You're absolutely right, God does not work that way. However, there is medical evidence that links breast cancer to abortion, just as there is medical evidence that links an increased incident of breast cancer in women to their use of the Pill when teenagers. I bring up the latter because the pathology is similar.It is downplayed and in my view "buried" in statistics which become discountable because they're just numbers, after all. It's also overlooked because too often we (this society) accept that a "small" number compared to the whole can be sacrificed. During a woman's teenage years, and during pregnancy, the breast goes through an intensive growth spurt. When using the Pill, all the extra estrogen can cause the already sped-up cell growth to mutate.During pregnancy, the hormone levels also change, and initiate cellular changes in the breast. A natural course of pregnancy would end up balancing out all the fluctuating hormone levels, and restoring the breast's cellular level back to normal. But abortion stops the process unnaturally, so that the cells are in heightened states of growth when our bodies would be shocked out of the pregnancy by an abortion. It's logistically false, but interesting that somehow the Church's position on contraception is blamed for abortions. It makes perfect sense to me that Catholics who are fully knowledgeable of why the Church is against contracepting; and therefore do not use contraception; are the couples who would never have an abortion if they became pregnant. Not using contraception because they understand and believe what the Church teaches, is a complete support and respect for life. Peace,sem

01.25.04   lindadic says:
These are terrible stories for all concerned, horribly painful to read and I am sure much, much worse to live through. One wonders: had the church not taken its position on contraception, could they all have been avoided? BTW: there is absolutely no medical evidence connecting breast cancer (or any other kind of cancer) to abortion; it's a terrible thing to imply that someone who has breast cancer has brought it upon herself by having an abortion. God does not work that way!

01.22.04   Godspy says:
Four women tell their stories of hope and healing after abortion

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