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aunt dottie
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June 22, 2006 1:42 PM
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After countless discussions with our midwife and trips to the gynecologist, we still don�t understand why my wife is not healing the way she should. �I�ve read that some women experience pain for a year after childbirth,� she tells me, repeatedly. �Okay,� I say darkly, �but they�re at least having intercourse�� And then we sigh and look at each other, and then give each other shoulder rubs. Who knew sex in marriage could be this good?
This is a touching and real and even inspirational portrayal of real life. If celibacy within marriage is, indeed, necessary in this case, Mr. Still seems to be dealing with it in the only way possible, i.e., with the help of the good Lord. I would gently suggest that perhaps there is no real gynecological indication for abstaining from intercourse but perhaps some wifely reluctance that might be overcome with Christian counseling. ? fear of another pregnancy, ? weariness dealing with a new baby. Whatever the problem, it must be approached with the utmost in gentleness and love. I might suggest Dr. Laura Schlessinger's THE PROPER CARE AND FEEDING OF HUSBANDS for Mrs. Still so that she might feel more motivated to accommodate her husband provided it is not painful. Maybe the poor woman is just stitched up too tight after an episiotomy! Just some thoughts.....I feel love will win out in this case. Pray - communicate - be very gentle with each other.
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klossg
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July 06, 2006 2:59 PM
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God bless Mr. Still and his wife. Anyone who offers chastity up in this day and age, is like a falcon, diving out of no where, flashing by, on target to truth. If you blink, you miss it. But once you have seen it or something like it, you feel the power and the goodness, and look for it again and again. I find myself always seeking the "falcon flash", looking for friendly predators in search of purity. I hope to catch a glimpse of them zipping by, indicating that they too may be on the grace path toward chastity. And, you Mr. Still have done this just as powerfully but maybe even more so because you slowed down the dive and made it easier to see the falcon in action. You have highlighted the tenseness and power of a man of porn, in search for what truly makes sex, a little taste of heaven.
Thanks Godspy and Mr. & Mrs. Still for this straight forward look at sex, temptation, redemption and grace above all.
My wife and I have been there and it is a falcon dive to say the least! That passion and straight line power, is only due to Christ and his glorious death and resurrection! We fail time and again but get back up and try. I loved the way you fused the Sacred Heart to the Porn and your memories. Very alive! Very real! Very human - yet aware of Christ and his love that makes chastity possible! Congratulations on becoming Catholic and sharing with this our broken body of Christ!
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George - God is good!
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suburbanbanshee
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Joined: Jul 2006
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July 17, 2006 7:08 PM
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Re: pain after childbirth
Maybe you've seen this info before, but:
http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,5110,00.html
This talks about a condition that's a sort of feedback loop of pain; the muscle expects to hurt, so it tenses up to the point of hurting.
Also, apparently sometimes prolonged inflamation can damage bone. This is talking about pain after childbirth in the coccyx, but probably this is true in other areas also.
http://www.coccyx.org/whatisit/inflamm.htm
Hope these links helped. Of course, there are always all kinds of weird medical things that happen, but hopefully this one will just go away soon.
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